This Month’s Parenting Class: Teaching Your Teen to Be a Good Example to Younger Siblings
Do you have an older sibling? Did you look up to them when you were growing up? Do you remember feeling like they could do no wrong?
Maybe you were the oldest in your family and you had younger siblings? Do you remember them annoyingly following you around or even mimicking your every move?
Sibling relationships and dynamics are a powerful thing. The power can be good or bad. If you had siblings growing up, older or younger, you know that it is true. Especially if you ever talked a younger sibling into doing something you didn’t want to do or even for taking the blame for something you did.
Parents of pre-teens into the teen years must think back and remember the power of sibling influence. Just as significant as sibling rivalry in a home is sibling example. It is important than that we teach our older children to be aware of the example they set for their younger siblings in 3 key areas.
1. Actions. Like the old phrase “monkey see, monkey do”, the same is true in your home. What younger siblings see an older sibling do they will try to do as well, that is why is important for older teen siblings to be wise and aware for their actions.
Jesus’ younger brother James even writes about this for us when he says “…By his good conduct let him show his works in the meekness of wisdom.” We all know the other simple phrase that is true as well, “actions speak louder than words”.
Parents must be good examples for their children, but also they need to have honest conversations with older children in their homes about the example their older children set for younger siblings too.
2. Reactions. The one place where emotions run the most raw and real is in the home, with people that know us best. You would never think of reacting to people publicly the way you might react to your family. This is especially true when it comes to your teens. They spend time at church or at school. They are known for being kind and well mannered. A few minutes in the door at home and suddenly they are a completely different person?
They react to situations and family members in ways that are emotional and disrespectful. Their younger siblings watch and learn by what is modeled for them. How an older sibling reacts, will be the way younger children in the home will react, also.
Not only do you need to immediately address the inappropriate reactions, but also you need to make sure your teen knows that their reactions teach the younger family members the wrong responses.
3. Interactions. Actions and reactions lead to interactions. Whether it is connected to human relationships or your spiritual relationship with God, interactions are part of how we were created. We desire interactions through communication and connection.
Younger siblings want to interact and connect with their older sibling they look up to. These important shaping interactions need to be one that set the example for how they build human friendships.
Guiding your teen as an older sibling by setting up times of family fun and activities will allow them to show an example of good interaction.
- Parenting Class 1: The Shema
- Parenting Class 2: Physical Changes in Teenagers
- Parenting Class 3: Rewind and Fast Forward
- Parenting Class 4: Rebel and Repeat
- Parenting Class 5: The Power of a Symbol
- Parenting Class 6: The Power of a Shared Experience
- Parenting Class 7: The Power of an Aplology
- Parenting Class 8: Sibling Rivalry
- Parenting Class 9: Harnessing Your Spiritual Influence
- Parenting Class 10: Planning “On Purpose” Time with Your Teenager
- Parenting Class 11: Taking Pride in Who God Made Them to Be
- Parenting Class 12: Responding vs. Reacting
- Parenting Class 13: Choosing Wisely
- Parenting Class 14: Failure and Success
- Parenting Class 15: Shepherding Their Heart
- Parenting Class 16: Friends
- Parenting Class 17: Broken Trust
- Parenting Class 18: Listening
- Parenting Class 19: Lines of Communication
- Parenting Class 20: Shared Hobby
- Parenting Class 21: Teens in Crisis
- Parenting Class 22: Training Your Teen to Be a Leader
- Parenting Class 23: Supporting Your Teenager’s Small Group
- Parenting Class 24: Investing in a Strong Relationship
- Parenting Class 25: Back to School
- Parenting Class 26: Guiding without Controlling
- Parenting Class 27: Thoughts on Praying for Your Teenager
- Parenting Class 28: Establishing a Trust Economy with Your Teenager
- Parenting Class 29: Helping Your Teenager Learn to Manage Money
- Parenting Class 30: Why Does Parenting Seem So Lonely?
- Parenting Class 31: How Do I Help My Teen Through the Death of a Friend?
- Parenting Class 32: How Do I Know When My Teen Needs Counseling?
- Parenting Class 33: Learning How to Apologize to My Teen
- Parenting Class 34: How to Stay Out of My Teen’s Drama
- Parenting Class 35: Knowing When to Stand Strong
- Parenting Class 36: Connecting with Your Gamer
- Parenting Class 37: What If Your Teenager Has a Bad Friend
- Parenting Class 38: Friendship Drama
- Parenting Class 39: How to Have a Tough Conversation with Your Teenager
- Parenting Class 40: Teens and Cell Phones
- Parenting Class 41: Looking for an Identity
- Parenting Class 42: Help Your Teen with Social Media
- Parenting Class 43: Is My Teenager Self-Obsessed?
- Parenting Class 44: The Pressure to Be Perfect
- Parenting Class 45: Cyberbullying
- Parenting Class 46: Goal Setting with Your Teenager
- Parenting Class 47: 3 Types of Spiritual Conversations You Can Have with Your Teenager
- Parenting Class 48: 3 Questions to Get Your Teenager to Start Talking
- Parenting Class 49: The 3 Seasons of Being a Teenager
- Parenting Class 50: Rage vs. Anger
- Parenting Class 51: Connecting Through the Written Word
- Parenting Class 52: Their Safe Place
- Parenting Class 53: Developing Gratefulness in Your Teen
- Parenting Class 54: Helping Your Teen Deal with Stress
- Parenting Class 55: Teaching Your Teen Responsibility
- Parenting Class 56: Helping Your Teen to Develop a Personal Devotional Life
- Parenting Class 57: A Godly Relationship vs. a Good Friendship with Your Teen